NITROUS OXIDE ( nos / n2o ) advice forum

Ok to add to what i was saying and getting to,my Mothers health has come to the point where she isnt long for this world. The Dr told me Sunday that her heart is over 40% dead tissue and over the past 2 years she has had congestive heart failure 4 times along with 2 strokes and pneumonia this time added to the CHF. She had to go in thursady from passing out and had to have rescue squad help us.I really didnt think she was coming home but she is stable and the Dr said what she needed could be done from home as she will be more comfortable here then there. He told me no need to go into a rehab facility as she doesnt have the strength and anything more then whats needed with reguards to physical movment will only stress her heart more.He told me I should prepare but like all cant say 1 day 1 week month or year but given her past history and her current problems a year would be streching it. I really am not working much at all as i dont like to leave her alone long unless i have someone close by and so this means putting my life on hold.
Very sorry to hear that Johnny but hopefully she's had a good life and the end will not be too painful.

I work enough for us to survive and when i started this i didnt think it would get to the point its at,I had planned on working more but she needs me.I dont think i can say how I feel as there is way to much but the things that this has done in a positive way for me is the reading and learning and bettering myslef and more time with her that I will cherish when she does pass and the feeling that I have from making her happy and comfortable thru a very difficult time is worth more then any in the world to me.She sleeps 18 hours which isnt her and the Dr said its because of her heart so the best i can hope is she passes while sleeping.So for lessons in life what would you give up for someone in your life?I by no means think i am anything special and I wrote this not to say hey look at what i am doing ,but more about what I feel i am getting back from it and in a way what gifts she is givening to me.I hope you understand what I have written and it also goes along with a saying I use alot in life.
Fully appreciate what you are saying and totally agree Johnny, which is why I spend as much time as I can with both my ageing parents while I can. Luckily my Mum (at 84) is still battling on rather well and although my Dads health isn't as good as we'd like he still manages to keep up with my Mum most of the time, so we're in a reasonably good situation considering their ages. However, as life inevitably comes to an end sooner or later it makes sense to make the best of the time that is made available to us as best we can. That's why I buy a bigger vehicle and pay for my daughter to visit us, so that my Mum & Dad can spend up to 2 weeks of quality time with Lisa, Elise, Janet and I at least once a year. There's nothing like having so many generations of our family spending time together as that ensure the memories of those who will soon be gone will last longer than they otherwise would.

When your green you grow and when your ripe your rotten. Dont ever stop thinking you cant learn more and always try to look for something good while bad things are happening around you.....
Couldn't agree more with both sentiments and although the 2nd can be very hard sometimes, if you try hard enough it has always been possible in my case at least.
All the best and stay strong my friend.

Thank you Trev and of everyone I knew you would understand what I was saying and it is very hard to find positive things but you know me I am always looking for something good in every situation because this is what helps me get thru the hard times,if i didnt have this positive outlook I think I would need to be put in a white jacket and padded cell
You and me both Johnny. :lol:

There is trully nothing like family and the older we get the more we can appreciate what family old and new we have and it should always be a celabration when getting together. Even in passing I feel that instead of morning the loss we should celabrate the life of that person. Its very hard to do but it helps me get thru the not having them in the flesh,and though they might not be right here and cant always answer the way we want i still talk to my father alot and close friend who passed 20 plus years ago....
The good things about passing over (especially when at old age) are;
1) An end to the suffering - which most people over 55 have to a greater or lesser degree
2) An end to being a burden - which most parents aren't happy about
3) Eternal rest from the struggle and strife of life
So you can be happy about those things when the time comes.
You can also celebrate the good things about your Mums life (as you say) to help you through the loss.

Enjoy your parents and i know they have to be so overjoyed seeing Lisa and the Baby...I know you are beside yourself when everyone is together and this has to be the closest feeling to heaven there is on earth.Second would be a record nitrous run...lol thrid a good woman....ok a good woman could be 4th as 3rd might be a 2nd best nitrous pass....
How very true on all counts and just my luck that I'm still deprived of the Pro Mod nitrous record run.

Ok well have a good one...
And you.